Building relationship for life with your partner ....

Being a science student and guy with dominant left-brain, I always look for the guidelines, rules, phenomenon that explain the human behavior or guide us to understand it. I am pretty sure that there is no universal guidelines for it still 'Heart is Heart' and so sometimes I think if :
- I really like somebody or not ?
- I am good for other person ?
- Other person is good for me ?
- we are good for each-other ?
or simply why I am not good for him/her ?
or what should I do to make things better between us `?

Though I understand that answers to above questions varies from people to people and  situation to situation so obviously this discussion might be 'odd' but some points in my opinion are quite common and play vital role in building new relationship or understanding the reason of failure in previous/current one. So here are my 10 findings until now .......

1. If you can not see how the life of your future partner will be changed for good then don't make him/her partner.Both of partner must have this feeling for a good start and also understand other's perspective beforehand.
2. If you can not see that you have desire to listen/talk to your partner now then don't expect it to fire-up suddenly once you will be together in future.So don't let this feeling of 'don't care' ever house in your heart for the people you will be caring about.
3. If you get angry with your future partner and don't have feeling which says that you should talk to him/her then this feeling will be even stronger after you come together so beware of this sign !! Come forward with a positive attitude to solve it for good.
4. Both the partner needs to understand what they must offer to the relationship so that bond of relationship will be stronger. Lack/absence of such offerings will make things difficult in future relationship.
5. Finding a common interest is equally important in cementing a relationship because it brings both the partner to come together not just because of each other and also give them a chance to forget some things for good.
6. Both the partner needs to gain some knowledge about each-other's work/profession/skills.It helps in understanding how your partner is feeling/doing in is non-family life and so other partner can make things relaxing if not better(when desired) and can add value to partner's life.
7. Partners should not make him/her husband/wife because he/she wants it,it MUST ALWAYS be mutual to survive longer.One person can drag the things but how long ... we all have limits !!
8. Role of common 3rd person becomes very important in life. If both partner have some other person who can listen to them fairly then it is boon for relationship as this angel/adviser/guide will always work for both of them.Siblings/frnds plays very vital role in this.
9. Both the partner must understand that Winning of one and loosing of another is not good after they become ONE.'You are wrong or I am right' both are not good.So always work towards loosing or winning TOGETHER NOT ALONE.    
10.Both the tentative partners should invest time in courtship/dating in-person and/or remotely. In this way they gain answers/insight to above points for good.

Greatness of human being lies in simplicity...

A man will be known by his words and works ......................RIP YP

"Pehli bhaisaab ko dijiye. Only then will I accept it," 

"Yaar Chintu I can't believe that I have come this far and that I have a studio in my name.''

'Do it the way Adi says'."

'Amit respects everybody and is the most civilised and cultured person. He is the first exemplary son I have seen in my life. He never talks about his achievement and status. I love Amit.'


 

The power of emotions ....:)

Though I must admit that I am not a movie buff but sometimes we all want to feel the different stroke.....So late Friday night , I wanted to see some great movie but basic intent was to watch something very different yet emotional.Tried to search for top 10 emotional hollywood movies but list could not satisfy my quest. Suddenly I realized that Youtibe has some different kind of movies that one watch....So just browsed youtube movies and found following 2 movies :

Perfect Opposites : Based on a western couple who wanted to Live together, in harmoniously, mutually fulfilling bliss. but destiny takes it own turn in their relationship episodes which clearly portrayed by cast and ultimately it is proved that experience and maturity comes with age and mistakes(perhaps :) ).Key Lines in the movie that I find catchy :

• ...winning people like Aand B......is a lot less important than losing people like C.
• ...Live together, in harmonious, mutually fulfilling, emotionally gratifying bliss.

Later I was in good mood and had enough stamina left to go for another short movie and so landed with following :


Memories In March : A movies that clearly depicts a different angle to contemporary debated topic.This national award winning film has shown that emotions have power to change feelings of hate to love ( and vice-versa ). But willingness and time both are needed to understand that emotions is prerequisite for it. Movie director Sanjay Nag deserves full credit as the way he has depicted the plot is just admirable where as the credit of story goes to great Ritupano Ghosh.

what is Cowparade and Elephant parade ?

Sometimes somethings attract us and we connect to them so intimately that we can not describe the feeling and that is exactly what happened when my plane landed on A gate terminal of Copenhagen airport at Kastrup on last monday morning. As it was morning 7.30 am so I was in hurry(want to know why in hurry then please read book rich dad and poor dad ) to reach client office at christianshavn.

Suddenly my eyes got stuck on a status of a cow outside of a airport shop and I could not help but to stop and appreciated the art. My was surprized to notice that whole shop is filled up with cow and elephant statues some with ceramic some with metal and some with paper too.

I asked the girl at the counter about the companies who are producing such an art and she gave me the aautomn catalog of both the following companies which are doing such a remarkable work in the field of art.

http://elephantparade.com/
http://www.cowparade.com

Great work by renowned artists working for these companies..

Another Good one from DKV

"नहीं कहा जो कभी, खामखाँ समझती है ,
जो चाहता हूँ मैं कहना कहाँ समझती है
सब तो कहते थे ताल्लुक में इश्क के अक्सर
आखँ को आखँ , ज़बाँ को जबाँ समझती है.......Another Good one from DKV